Start by being honest with yourself. My wife resisted and played games with this life style and our relationship. Once children arrived she closed herself off from all of us unless she was angry, wanted something or we had to dress up nice and go out to pretend to be the perfect family. When I turned and focused on our children she felt and acted like the adopted child I neglected, not my wife my partner their Mother. She then does the most insanely vindictive thing she could to me. Then the mother of all acts, she fully embraced this lifestyle and kept it behind my back. I saw some and ignored the rest..... Now its over, I have my children. They won't speak to her, she doesnt support them a dime! and we both have terminal cancer,.....so maybe be honest with your self before you find out to late that he did love you and all you thought about was what you felt and wanted. How does he feel as you said, you are not doing what he wanted. I hope you two do not have young children. They see and hear EVERYTHING, from both sides. Sorry for the quick harsh tale,...but this can quickly destroy to both. As McCarthy sang. In my life, I loved you more. (save it before it is too late. best of luckj to you)

I try not to let myself go there unless I know he’s there first. It snuck up me once a few years ago, and when it dissolved, I was a mess for a while. This, too, shall pass.

Fare enough but carful what you wish for, remember love is the only thing that can break the heart.

Same here...sorry hun 😔