Taking the Leap: My First Time Meeting Someone from the Site
I honestly don’t remember ever agreeing to join this site.
When I started receiving email notifications, I initially ignored them. Eventually, I decided to check into why I was getting them. When I did, I almost fell off my chair seeing all the naked pictures. I thought, ‘OMG. What the heck have I gotten myself into?’
So, I took a step back and took my time to look around and discovered the site was focused on the swinger lifestyle. I recognized I would have to be open-minded because I was stepping into something I knew virtually nothing about.
I decided it was time to take action and responded to a message from the male half of an M/F couple, explaining I was a novice and wanted to learn more. After a few exchanges, he suggested that if I really wanted to know more, I should read "The Ethical Slut." I did, and after I completed each chapter, we would discuss what I had learned.
He kept inviting me to meet, but I always found excuses not to. Finally, he told me about a situation he thought would be the perfect scenario. He and his wife were invited to a barbecue at a woman’s place who shared their interests. He told me I was welcome to join them and there would be no pressure to do anything I wasn’t comfortable with. I accepted his offer, and when I met them, I knew it was the right decision.
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Some firsts take a lot of courage. Brava!
@superbjversion2 Indeed, some firsts do take a lot of courage. I'm glad I took the leap and shared my experience 😊
My first meetup from the site was somewhat of a disaster. I had a "what the heck" attitude and didn't do enough screening. The second meet (with a different person) went much better.
@smartasswoman Thank you for sharing your experience! It's reassuring to know that others have had similar journeys with ups and downs. I'm glad to hear your second meetup went much better. It's all about learning and growing from each experience.
I'm now left wondering what happened at the barbecue!
@spunkycumfun Ah, the mystery of the barbecue!
I appreciate your curiosity. Let's just say that it was an eye-opening and memorable experience, but that's a story for another time. 😊
So glad you had an awesome experience here as it's always great to keep an open mind. I am glad that things went well with your meeting at the barbecue, that doesn't always happen here for sure.
I hope your enjoying a Sexy Saturday..
@Tmptrzz Thank you. I trusted my instincts and have no regrets.
Hope you find things to make you smile today and throughout the weekend!
You have ageless wisdom to go walk in someone else shoes n see it from their perspective, cautiously as u were, (thats conservative)& see & understand what u were missing, & from reading between the lines you enjoyed (discreetly )for yourself to the enjoyment in your own memory which says u are a good soul for yourself & others around you. & of course what we are doing could be considered liberal. We only want to enjoy life to its fullest & try do no harm. Personally I get so sick of hearing of this liberal/ conservative political divisiveness junk like we are all locked at each extreme end but no one can even explain what those extreme ends even are & possibly contain the worlds worst nutjobs. Fact is most of us middlings don't need those classifications & just want to talk n understand each others & merge our ideas for our own betterment. Enjoy. & no do not tell the curiosity seekers just wanting a share of treasured 1st experience at this. leave them in suspense or not. LOL.
@hotinchullafinne I agree that walking in someone else's shoes can offer valuable insights and enrich our own experiences.
It's true that political labels can often be limiting and divisive. I believe that open-mindedness and a willingness to understand each other can lead to meaningful conversations and positive change. People should continue to focus on their shared humanity and the ways they can support one another.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Good way to tiptoe up to a first!
@redswallow777 Better to tread carefully. I didn’t rush into it and was glad it all worked out well.
That certainly sounds like it was the right choice at the right time for you.
@easyrider4008 Thank you. I trusted my instincts and have no regrets.
We are kind of ok with the being open minded thing but, there is almost always a right and wrong answer. If you can't understand the right answer, it doesn't make you open minded and trying to be understanding. Sometimes, it just means you are in denial, or perhaps ignorant of the facts. For instance- if you are diagnosed with an illness...you don't want the Doctor to be open minded and try to appreciate your understanding of the situation, when you have no clue. You want your Doctor to know the right answer and treat you appropriately. Same with Airline pilots.... do you want someone to understand your fear of flying...or do you want someone that can fly the plane and get you to your destination safely? So, yes in fact, there are right and wrong answers.
@mande4fun2 Thank you for your perspective. You raise valid points about certain situations requiring definitive answers and expertise, such as in medical diagnoses or airline safety. The meme, however, is highlighting the importance of open-mindedness in understanding diverse viewpoints and experiences, where the concept of "right" and "wrong" is more subjective. It's about fostering empathy and meaningful dialogue, even when there isn't a single correct answer.
It was after my divorce, that my sexual horizons expanded. I had first tried the site circa 2004 / 2005. The first few women I met through the site were more like dates with sexual overtones. It was a married couple that introduced me to being an invited 3rd which I would have never considered beforehand but because I had gotten to know them first, it made it easier to cross that threshold. I had never looked back since.
@pussylovergta16 Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s amazing how life can take unexpected turns and open up new horizons. I'm glad you found a path that brought you fulfillment and new experiences. It's stories like yours that inspire others to be open to new possibilities.
Yeeeees beautiful
The man gave you some good advice. He was an excellent intro into a fun lifestyle.
Hugs!
@PonyGirl1965 Thank you! The advice I received really was a great introduction to a fun lifestyle, and I'm glad you enjoyed reading about it. Hugs!
Couples are so much fun. Especially if they're newbies exploring for the first time. Since you're still here I gather it went well.
My first FMF was with a couple of fellow AFFers who were FWBs. I met her through the Japan chat room and I met him for the first time at her place. They were fun and I've played with them a few times until they left Japan.
@JN63JPN It sounds like you had a memorable and enjoyable time with them. It's always interesting to hear about different first-time experiences and how they shape our perspectives.
Sometime our gut feeling is the right one to follow. Learning experiences are about what you take away from them
@anmlmn Absolutely! Trusting our gut feeling can often lead us in the right direction. Every experience, whether good or challenging, offers valuable lessons and insights. It's all about what we take away from those moments.
Sounds interesting... and intriguing, to say the least.
@Paulxx001 It was. It was not a decision that I made hastily. I also had an escape plan 😊
To add a few thoughts for the detractors. Religion- Yes i am - Christian. & the bible is the most amazing book ever. most of what people judge n harm each other over it it does not say for them to do that. obviously god invented sex & made it so irrestible. else the human race would be extinct i a few generations which agrees with nature. the jealous & young may kill you as they want their beholden to bring home the bacon & dick, not somewhere else. & they want their kids to look like them. for the jelous - Were u a virgin in body n mind when u got married & was also your spouse. Did u or have u ever looked upon another with lust, longing, wonderment, admiration, excitement,daydreaming, n getting giddy/hot. Oh please don't lie n say no. So work on it & don't fault the other for it also. even consider give them that magical space .
@hotinchullafinne I appreciate your perspective on the importance of understanding and compassion, as well as your reflections on human nature. It's valuable to have open and honest conversations about these topics, and embracing our shared humanity can help foster greater empathy and connection.
Do you believe that murder is ever just? Or that abusing children or defenseless people is ever just? Sick puppy stuff there lady.
There is obviously a right or wrong answer!